Why Does Emotional Intelligence Affect You and Your Success?

Nancy Stampahar
October 15, 2009 — 3,040 views  
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The simplest way to differentiate between Intelligence Quotient (IQ) and Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is that IQ is about book smarts and EQ is about human smarts. To succeed in today's workplace and life, it takes more than book smarts; it also takes human smarts. For example, your IQ may get you hired or a date but it is your EQ that will get you promoted and an emotionally healthy, life-time partner. Human smarts (EQ) includes those soft, intangible, gray, interpersonal, people skills that are critical for success at work and home.

Emotional Intelligence involves becoming self-aware, emotionally expressive, trusting, flexible and resilient, compassionate and emotionally aware of others, being open- minded and optimistic, taking initiative, having close relationships and feeling satisfied with your life. Good news - EQ can be learned!  Developing your EQ skills definitely matter to your success, happiness and fulfillment.

According to the Essi Systems' EQ Map®, there are three driving forces involved with developing a high EQ. These forces are what give an individual and an organization a competitive advantage. They are:

1. Building Trusing Relationships
2. Increasing Energy and Effectiveness Under Pressure
3. Creating the Future

EQ provides the ability to control your emotions (yourself) to achieve positive outcomes in both your professional and personal lives. It's about the choices you make with each interaction and circumstance you experience. It makes an individual contributor into a team player. It makes a manager into a leader.  It makes an acquaintance into a desired friend. It makes an unhealthy relationship into a healthy, loving one. It makes a family member into a great role model. It makes you succeed.

Nancy Stampahar


Nancy Stampahar inspires people into action with her enthusiasm and lemons to lemonade wisdom and expertise. She is the author of the 2009 IPPY Award winning self-help, inspirational book, peace, love and lemonade: a recipe to make your life sweeter and a sought-after organizational development consultant, trainer and speaker. Nancy solely owns and directs her business Silver Lining Solutions. She earned her BSBA in human resource management from Robert Morris University, after she decided to make lemonade. She received the 2009 Joe Ott Award from ACHIEVA, which serves people with disabilities in recognition of outstanding vision, volunteer leadership and generosity of spirit.