Is Disrespect Affecting Your Outcomes and Profits?

Nancy Stampahar
February 18, 2009 — 2,326 views  
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At the top of an employee wish list, is the need to be treated with dignity and respect.  Whether at work or home, isn't being treated with dignity and respect a need for everyone?

The following questions will help you assess if you are being treated or treating others with respect at work or home:

  • Do you include others in meetings, committees and events?
  • Do you reprimand and praise every person when performing the same actions (don't play favorites)?
  • Do you praise more than criticize?
  • Do you listen to understand versus listen to respond (don't interrupt)?
  • Do you encourage others to express their thoughts, suggestions and feelings? 
  • Do you implement expressed suggestions? 
  • Do you ask questions to show you are interested and care? 
  • Do you seek out others for their expertise and assistance to show you value their opinions?
  • Do you control your anger outbursts and criticisms to not make people feel inadequate?
  • Are you simply courteous, polite and thoughtful? 

People can hold either coercive respect or genuine respect for another person. Coercive respect occurs when people are afraid of the repercussions if they do not perform according to the other person.  Coercive respect is not healthy and can become toxic on performances.  Genuine respect occurs when people are performing because they genuinely like the other person and think they are fair, consistent and deserving of respect.  Would you rather be treated with coercive or genuine respect?

Nancy Stampahar


Nancy Stampahar inspires people into action with her enthusiasm and lemons to lemonade wisdom and expertise. She is the author of the 2009 IPPY Award winning self-help, inspirational book, peace, love and lemonade: a recipe to make your life sweeter and a sought-after organizational development consultant, trainer and speaker. Nancy solely owns and directs her business Silver Lining Solutions. She earned her BSBA in human resource management from Robert Morris University, after she decided to make lemonade. She received the 2009 Joe Ott Award from ACHIEVA, which serves people with disabilities in recognition of outstanding vision, volunteer leadership and generosity of spirit.